If you are not
confident in yourself, it can be contagious.
Others will not be confident in you, which can be detrimental to
building a business and/or improving your life.
It is not possible to
simply snap your fingers, and “ta-da,” you are self-confident. Gaining self-confidence is a process, and it
is unlikely to happen quickly.
However, building
self-confidence is achievable for anyone who wants it badly enough. It takes determination, focus and a little
time. Self-confidence comes from
achievement. And you are in control of
your achievements.
If you believe you
lack confidence in yourself, whether it is in your personal or professional
life, take time to think about the direction you want your life to go. What are your goals? Write them down, both
your long term and short term goals. What is it you want to achieve in your
personal or professional life? Then,
commit yourself to reaching those goals and achieving everything about which
you now only dream.
Start by looking at
your life. What have you achieved so far
in your life about which you are proud?
They need not be huge accomplishments.
Did you earn a college degree?
Did you work with a charitable group that helped many others? Did you pass an exam, or were you selected
for a position you wanted?
No matter how small,
think of ten things you achieved in your adult life, and write them down. Put them somewhere that you’ll see them
frequently – on a bulletin board perhaps or the refrigerator door – to remind
you that you have achieved a lot already in your life.
My mentor once asked
me, “What do you think is more important, working on your strengths or your
weaknesses?” I immediately replied that
I should work on my weaknesses.
Wrong! We should instead use our
strengths to help us grow. Don’t dwell
on our weaknesses. I was surprised to
see that when I followed his advice, my strengths got even stronger, but at the
same time, my weaknesses were minimized.
Concentrate on your
strengths, and you’ll find that your confidence will grow. EVERYONE has strengths, even if you don’t
believe you do. Pay attention to the
negative talk in your head. “I can’t”
should be eliminated from your vocabulary.
If you catch yourself thinking or saying it, quickly change the words to
“I will.”
Change your vision of
your future. Create your mental picture
to see yourself achieving the goals you have set for yourself. You can start small, and then allow yourself
to grow your vision. You can use imagery
to picture yourself in a year, in five years or ten, having achieved many of
the goals you set out to complete.
Commit yourself to success, and you will
achieve it! When you find self-doubt
rising to the surface, use self-talk to challenge it. Remind
yourself that you can achieve all you have set out to do.
I don’t believe for a minute that this process
is easy or quick. It is neither. It will take time and repetition. Like “The Little Train that Could,” remind
yourself that you CAN do everything to which you have committed yourself. You CAN and you WILL build the professional
and personal life that today seems to be only a dream.
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